Distance Lovin’ Part 6: Can a Sistah Get a White Man???



I recently had the great pleasure of meeting and corresponding with Kimberly Butler, owner of the Black Girl In Berlin blog.  Since December 2011, Kimberly has been sharing her experiences as a young, African American woman, living, dating, loving, and making a life for herself in Berlin, Germany.  Particularly, I found her observations about dating across racial and geographic borders to be pretty insightful.  If you haven’t already been there, or you haven’t been in a while, you should definitely go over to her place and see what she has to say about living and loving abroad!

While you’re there, check out a post that Kimberly recently shared.  It’s by yours truly and touches on this ever popular topic of black women dating white men.  Read the full entry and join in the conversation.  This “Chocolate/Vanilla Swirl” topic has plenty of angles:

“As an author whose work overlaps the Women’s Fiction category, I’m aware that the Interracial Romance genre has been a quite popular one for some time now, and interest is growing. If Barnes & Noble hadn’t changed its Fiction display so that you can no longer see Women’s Fiction, Afro American Fiction, Romance, etc., grouped separately, you’d more easily notice all those virile young black American women swirling with white/Latino men on many of those covers. (Not so many depictions of black women with, say, Indian, Japanese, Chinese, or African men—‘sup with that?) The idea has become quite public. And while I wouldn’t say that it’s mainstream, advertisers are all over the black girl white guy pair now in commercials and print ads.

“What bothers me is all the statistics and negative labels that complement this steady flow of images, and the scarcity mentality that insists that it would be easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a black woman to find a suitable mate. I’m one of those weird mind-over-matter types who believes in the idea that what you think and expect are what you get. And I’m not convinced that Black Women are in dire straits or that we should allow a barrage of that kind of information to make us believe that. Why the heck would I, of all people, want to buy into that…”

READ ENTIRE ENTRY ON BlackGirlInBerlin.com, and let us know what you think!

One thought on “Distance Lovin’ Part 6: Can a Sistah Get a White Man???

  1. I think there are plenty relationships between Black & White, maybe not quite as many marriages that lasts. For the sake of love I think Black women should explore, but for the sake of preserving the true Black Race, I feel differently.


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